The artist Drake released a song called “No New Friends” and of course the catchy little tune was loved by everyone and played non-stop on the radio. Everywhere you looked up on social media was a funny little quirk about how people didn’t want “new friends” which got me to thinking, how do I feel about new friends?
The song is a play on words of being around people you trust and people you can rely on. At what point does a friend become an “old” friend because not everyone can keep childhood friends. Sometimes I envy people with “childhood” friends because I don’t have any. I wish I had someone that’s known me all my life, in my life full time as a friend. I’ve grown apart from all of my friends that I grew up with. Mostly because I moved away and because you find out that you don’t have as much in common as you thought or that you’ve become different people.
I love the ideal of having new friends. New friends are exciting and the definition of growth sometimes. I’m constantly trying to broaden my horizons and part of that is meeting new people who teach you new things in which culture plays a huge part of that. Meeting new people also means new point of views on not just life but who you are as a person. How would you truly know you evolved if all you knew was all you’ve known.
If I’m completely honest, its my “new friends” who’s helped motivated me to blog. I’m on Day 6 of my 30 day blogging challenge because of new friends who made me feel like I can do it. So to those who say “No New Friends” I say give those “New Friends” to me.
It’s no secret that I had my first child at the age of 16, and because I don’t learn my lessons the first time around, I had my second at 19. I love both my boys with all my being…however I feel I sacrificed my teenage years and my 20s to be a mom. I wanted to be the best mom I knew how to be and that meant going to work and going home. I didn’t hang out and explore the world and its possibilities. I didn’t pursue my dreams and live on the edge. I don’t regret any of it either. My boys know I love them and we have a great relationship. We laugh, we talk, and we hang out and they respect me. They’re both good kids. Fast forward and now I’m 31 with a birthday fast approaching on the 21st. My youngest, 12 now lives with his father because we co-parent the best we know how and my oldest, 15 lives with me.
I don’t know if it’s because my boys are now self-sufficient, actually I know it is. However, I think its much more to it than that. When you’re in your 20s you are trying to figure life out without getting stepped on too much. Now 30s is a whole new ball game. You know how to party without getting into trouble, you no longer argue and fight over dumb stuff with dumb people. If you aren’t living your dream you’re now ready to go for it or give up lol. 30s just feel good because you’ve made enough mistakes to know that its okay to make mistakes. Maybe its just me because I feel so free and focused and ready for the world. I’m in such a happier place and I’m no longer afraid to give my all because I know life is short and I’m worth it.
Do you like your 30s, are you where you think you should be? Are you happy? Are you ready to be happy if you’re not?
The ladies of R&B Divas will be going on tour. If you grew up listening to R&B music in the 90s than you know how amazing these women are. Keke Wyatt, Nicci Gilbert of Brownstone, powerhouse Kelly Price, Dawn of the iconic En Vogue and trio group Lucy Pearl and of course the First Lady of Bad Boy label Faith Evans herself. This night will be full of hits for sure. A night guaranteed to bring back memories and have you swaying and singing. What better way to wrap up your turkey day (Thanksgiving) with family then to hit this concert and feel good and reminisce with people you love.
Tickets are now on sale…
A few days ago I was in the mall. Actually it was November first. Do you realize they already had up Christmas decorations. It always amazes me how fast they put those decorations up. Our economy is so financially driven and they can’t wait to sink their teeth in our pockets. The kids have barely eaten their first piece of candy and wiped off their makeup and yet here they come with the trees and wreaths. Don’t even get me started on Black Fridays are pretty much Brown Thursdays now. I’ve totally lost any all desire in any of it. Turkey not even out the oven but you have folks standing in line in the cold trying to get a deal.
Are you going to stand in a line this year? Are you already decorating? Are you one of the few sad souls being forced to work on Thanksgiving?
Have you ever had a head full of thoughts but yet no words to speak them?
It’s day 2 of 30 days of blogging and i find myself looking for something “catchy” to talk about. Usually when I’m driving I used that as time to think. Sometimes by the time I’ve reached my destination I wonder how I got there. This challenge is turning me into a zombie and I’m pretty sure it’s because I’m over thinking it.
Honestly I think my biggest problem is the pressure of an “audience.” It’s so easy to get caught up writing for “others” verses writing for yourself. I think that’s the problem with art. What good is it if no one likes it? You’re suppose to write because you love it and it makes you feel good but if its not what people want to read. Then you find yourself curving your passion for appeal. I guess that’s why there are so many “starving artists” because many people aren’t willing to “sell themselves” or their integrity for mainstream. I can respect that, but what’s wrong with wanting success? What’s wrong with having a few luxuries in life? Don’t we all want to take care of our families and shower our kids with pieces of the world? Don’t you want them to have the things in life you didn’t?
November has always been an important month to me and not just because of Thanksgiving. My birthday is this month. Although every year it turns out to be a disappointment because I never seem to have a someone special to make me special on my day, I’m still ever so grateful. Life is a gift and I appreciate it everyday. Well now November is more special than ever because I’m seeing all these sites and people participating in 30 days of writing. I think its’s great that people are pushing themselves and motivating others. I’ve decided to be one of these people so today just before that midnight expiration, I’ve managed to punch out a blog post. Nothing glitzy, creative or even catchy but I did it and sometimes that’s all that matters. It’s too early for writers block. I can’t let me get in the way of me. I’m looking forward to challenging myself everyday as well as making a few friends along the way.
Are you participating in 30 consecutive days of writing?
Here I am baring all and feel naked. For some people writing comes easy. When I was younger I used to be one of those people but life tends to beat you up and bruise you. The older you get the more critical you become of yourself and others aren’t that kind either. What’s worse than any of those things is feeling ignored altogether. I think that’s why people start to become someone they’re not because it feels better than being treated as if you don’t exist or matter.
Society is so different from when I was growing up. Who knew I would make statements like that? Who knew we’d become our parents. I always shake my head when I find myself sounding like my mother. Anyway, these days its much easier to reach more people thanks to this thing we call internet, and yet it’s still so hard. You know its an audience out there but yet you can’t figure out how to build one. It doesn’t help to see people jumping on TV acting a fool and being rewarded. I’m not willing to do that. No one should have to and yet its what it has come to.
I want an audience. I want to be myself. I want to write. I want to live and be happy. How do I do this? I know this may sound crazy but this is a legitimate question? Truth is, I’m new to this and this may never get read but at least I was willing to get naked….
For those of you who love live music but can’t always afford the big concerts at the bigger venues with the bigger ticket prices, I have a special treat for you. There are several good concerts coming up that won’t break the bank but is guaranteed to make you feel good and shake a tail feather or two with your boo, good friend, or by yourself.
Kicking off the month is the jazz pianist Robert Glasper for his Black Radio 2 album which features several incredible artists such as COMMON, MARSHA AMBROSIUS, BRANDY, JILL SCOTT, ANTHONY HAMILTON, NORAH JONES, SNOOP DOGG, LUPE FIASCO, EMELI SANDÉ, AND MORE. With features like this you never know who may show up and bless the stage. Catch Robert at Variety Playhouse November 6, 8pm. Tickets start at $30 in adv and $35 at the door day of. I recommend you get yours early.
Mid month is Atlanta’s own Anthony David. Although Anthony was born in Savannah, Atlanta is and has been the place he calls home. I’ve seen Anthony perform numerous times and he never disappoints. With ticket prices at $15 in adv and $20 day of show, how could you miss it. Grab a bite, grab a friend, grab a drink and enjoy the show. Anthony will be at The Loft November 15. Doors open at 9 and starts at 10pm.
Lastly and rightfully so to end the month on a good note is Mr. PJ Morton aka Live Show Killa and he definitely earned the nickname. PJ is currently the stand-in keyboard pianist for Maroon 5 (one of my favorite groups) and recently wrapped up several tours 2 with the band and one of his home. One may ask when does he take a break?! As a special treat for Atlantans, PJ will be performing 2 nights at the infamous well known Apache Cafe Nov. 29th & 30th priced at $20 per show or $30 for both. The first night is with friends such as Rahbi, Kameron Corvet, Anthony David, Chantae Cann, and Algebra. I’ve had the opportunity to witness each of these people individually and they’re all phenomenal so to have them all in one night will be incredible. Night 2 will be a freestyle reunion so expect incredible instrumentals. Either way you can’t go wrong either night. I hope to see you there!!!
What show will you be attending?!
For anyone who cares, season 4 Love & Hip Hop New York premiered last night and so far it has not disappointed. Most of the cast is new which is always tricky but I have to say that Mona Scott and her people did a good job. Although the Love & Hip Hop franchise started in New York, it begin to fall in the shadows of the Atlanta cast. I don’t think this cast would put New York back on top but it will at least give life to the dying interest of New York franchise.
First let’s talk about the older cast members. Last season we left off with Mendeecees going to jail and for Yandy that’s where we picked up. Tahiry and Joe are back together and trying to make it work. Erica Mena is back with a new twist and by twist I mean a girlfriend. Rich Dollaz is starting his own label with Yandy with some expected threesome plots with Erica. K. Michelle, a crossover from Atlanta cast, is now in New York. They haven’t showed much of her plot but it’d be interesting to see if she’s going to continue to play this new bad girl gone good character that she left off from Atlanta or will she go back to being the short fuse she truly is.
New Cast: Peter Gunz who only had a quick cameo or two last season is back with his own storyline and its a doosie. At first glance it comes off as a Stevie J knock off but by the end of the episode you see the interesting twist. Peter has two children with Tara Wallace and lives with her but get this, he is sleeping with his artist Amina Buddafly who supposedly is more than just his jump off, she’s his secret wife as well.
As far as the rest of the cast, I have no clue but I guess you can only cram so much in the first episode. So far it’s enough to have me tuning in every Monday. Will you be watching?L
As we all know, cosmetic surgery is booming since no one seems to be satisfied with any genetic feature they were born with. The latest craze now is the Eyebrow implant, old news to some and new to most. Remember when everyone was shaving brows to make them pencil thin?! Well now everyone wants the Kardashian / Megan Fox look.
So how does it work? They take hair from the back of your neck and implant it in your brows. Don’t sound too bad right? I mean how many people care about that nappy kitchen anyway. The catch is you have to clip your brows because that hair grows just like it would normally meaning your “brows” can become bangs which isn’t cute. The cost of this procedure can range anywhere from $4,000 to $8,000.
As crazy as this sounds, I would recommend this over tattooing which I always thought was crazy. I’ve always had full brows that are naturally arched but not everyone is so lucky. Hey, this is a no judgement zone, so do what you got to do to love you.
What are your thoughts…..